Finding a partner to spend the rest of your life with
So we know that building a relationship with someone depends on you and the other person. It has more or less nothing to do with compatibility. But if we can't rely on compatibility tests or some standard form of testing to find our ideal partner, how are we going to do it? Dr. John Gottman, founder of the Seattle-based Gottman Institute, said that personality measurements can't really predict the length or success of a relationship. Gottman found that couples who channel their energy into building something meaningful in their lives together (like starting a business together) tend to last the longest. How a couple communicates is the most important aspect of building a successful relationship. This means that who you are or what you do will not prolong or help you find the perfect partner. It's how you talk to each other, how well you get along, and how you spend time together. John Gottman said that your partner should support the dream of your life. They should look up to you, admire you and respect you. Now that sounds perfect, but if you really think about how you've always wanted to be treated, it's important to have someone who truly believes in your greatness. Don't think it's all about how we treat each other. however, much of the connection you feel with another person is emotional. Therefore, you must be able to answer each other when you need something. Or, as John Gottman said, "Will your partner approach you with the same enthusiasm? You need to ask questions and constantly expand your knowledge of each other. Final Thoughts on Soulmate If you are truly looking for love and want to find someone you can spend the rest of your life with, remember that YOU are the one who creates compatibility. There is no magic formula or perfect algorithm for creating a fruitful relationship with another person. Yes, you have to find the other person attractive, look at them, and feel a strong familiarity, but that's only a small part of the pie that makes up a healthy, lasting relationship. So the next time you spot someone who catches your eye and makes your pupils dilate with interest and excitement, keep an eye out to see if they're seeing your lifelong dreams. If they can share your joy and accept you for who you are today, not for who you might be tomorrow, you have found your "friend".